Welcome to the 6th episode of Maya Monday! This week, I’m talking all about dealing with failure. It wasn’t until college that I learned that I couldn’t go through life just dodging failure. It was coming, and what was important was how I dealt with it. Watch the video to hear some of the ways I navigate through and handle failure, or read the points below. If anything sticks with you, please share this video with someone else via social media (or use the Pinterest image at the end)!
How to Handle Failure
One of the reasons why we hate failure so much is that we wrap our self-worth in the positions and jobs we hold, as well as our ability to achieve. When we face rejection or don’t achieve a goal we set for ourselves we feel as though we weren’t “good enough.” Obviously, this is not the case, but it is important that we remind ourselves of that regularly. Be your own biggest supporter and constantly root for yourself (that is not selfish, BTW). One way I like to affirm myself is by keeping a Record of Awesome Qualities and Things about Myself (as I like to call it 😂). I use the Notes app on my phone to keep a list of great qualities I possess and achievements I make throughout the year. That way, when I do fall short of a goal or fail to achieve something, I won’t feel torn apart because I can just read about how amazing I already am.
Evaluate your failure
While some things happen through no fault of our own and are based on other circumstances, our actions play a big role in the outcome of our success. When you fail, it is important to reflect on what exactly happened. Where did you go wrong, and where could you improve? You don’t want to make the same mistake multiple times, so this step is extremely important. Be honest with yourself, and don’t be afraid to ask for feedback from interviewers, coworkers, or friends.
Decide your next move
After you’ve found your magic and reevaluated your actions, it is time to decide where to head next. Two options (not the only two, of course) are trying again or moving on. There have been times where I was surprised to see my life did not end after I was rejected from a club or position, and I was just fine moving on with my life. That failure made way for other stellar opportunities. However, there are also times when I took what I learned through evaluation, found confidence through affirmations, and came back stronger than ever to take what I set out for originally. It is really up to you and what you think is best for your own life. If you have a difficult time choosing, make a pro-con list!
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Failure will rear its ugly head in your life at some point or another (and then another).The most important part is how you deal with it. Remember, that your worth is not equal to the executive positions you hold or the money you make. You’re incredible regardless of those things. How do you deal with failure? Do you have anything else to add to the list? Comment them down below!